Quiz: Are you ready for a relationship?

Take the quiz to discover how you relate to other people

Do your clients start to irritate you, your suppliers let you down, or your romantic relationships wither after just a few months?  If you find it hard to keep old friends or make new ones, maintain your colleagues' loyalty or stay with the same employer, the chances are that it's because of the way you look at the world.

To discover how, and what to do about it, start with these questions. Don’t spend too long on each one, simply decide whether, on balance, you generally agree or disagree.  

 

1. Most people seem to like me.              

Agree 

Disagree

 

2. I am comfortable about getting close to others.

Agree 

Disagree

 

3. I worry about being alone.  

Agree 

Disagree

 

4. People are rarely there when you need them.   

Agree 

Disagree

 

5. Other people tend to respect me.  

Agree 

Disagree

 

6. I am comfortable depending on others.                            

Agree 

Disagree

 

7. I tend to worry that romantic partners don't really love me.            

Agree 

Disagree

 

8. I find it difficult to trust others.                   

Agree 

Disagree

 

9. I enjoy close relationships.                             

Agree 

Disagree

 

10. I worry that others don't value me as much as I value them.     

Agree 

Disagree

 

Now to work out out what it means, you will need to calculate two scores.  

Question	Agree	Disagree
1	+2	-2
3	-2	+2
5	+2	-2
7	-2	+2
10	+2	-2
Total score for 'me' (between -10 and +10)

 

 

Question	Agree	Disagree
2	+2	-2
4	-2	+2
6	+2	-2
8	-2	+2
9	+2	-2
Total score for 'you' (between -10 and +10)

 

What it means

What these results suggest (there are only 10 questions so this is more of a suggestion than a conclusive diagnosis), is how you look at your self and how you look at others. Am I OK? Are you OK?


If the 'me' score is positive (and certainly if it is greater than +2) then you feel pretty good in your own skin. You value yourself and you are likely to agree with the statement 'I'm OK', maybe even 'I'm an all round good person'.  

If the score is negative (and certainly if it is less than -2) then it's the opposite. You probably do not value yourself very highly. You might even agree with the statement 'I'm not OK' or, 'I'm not good enough' or maybe even 'there's a lot that's not quite right with me'.

The same rules apply for the 'you' score, which is about how you see other people. Do you tend to assume that they are OK until they prove otherwise? Or is it more often the other way around: they need to prove themselves before you are willing to be impressed? The positive score (especially > +2) suggests you are in the 'you're OK' camp. And a negative score (especially <-2) suggests you're in the 'you're not OK'.

 

 

For a graphic view of what your results mean, plot where you are in the following grid:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now click here to find out what the results mean

 

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